It is a Canadian stereotype that we tend to apologize for everything…even when it is not our fault. That said, studies have shown that women are apologizing more than men each day.
I came across this article and it is definitely a good read, but in short they highlight a few things we need to stop apologizing for.
- Asking for what we want—more responsibility or a promotion is earned with our hard work and we shouldn’t preface with “sorry, but…”
- Saying No—for some of us just saying that one word is tough, and then we follow it up with “Sorry”. We are allowed to protect our time a decline requests that are not feasible and we shouldn’t feel bad for it
- Taking Up Space— walking down the street, someone has their head down looking at their phone, and bump us…we say “sorry”. It wasn’t our fault yet for some reason we act as though just being around them is an inconvenience
- Unplugging—in a word that everyone is connected, we feel bad if we don’t reply to an email or text message almost immediately “sorry for the delay in reply, was just at the doctor’s” or “ sorry didn’t get the message, was sleeping”
- Voicing your opinion— everyone has different ideas, we are a part of the team at work (or in a family), just because we have a DIFFERENT idea or opinion, no sense apologizing for us…that’s just what being human is about
- Enjoying your own company – We get invited out for a big party, but the last thing we want to do is go out. Perhaps a night in is just exactly what we want, so we again apologize that we can’t make the festivities because we rather get in our PJs and watch a movie solo. Nothing wrong with it.
Check out the full article-–and the benefits of using the word SORRY LESS